Social Wellness ~ I remember the trips boys trips like they were yesterday! Three days of reminiscing, beers, laughter, reflection, sore heads and the occasional golf ball hit. Not necessarily straight, long or on the right fairway, but hit nevertheless.
These weekends were priceless, reconnecting and reflecting on the good times, the bad times, the fun times, and just having some time out with some quality mates.
So what happened? Why aren’t we still doing them, as every time we catch up for a beer (not frequently enough I might add) we always talk about how good the golf weekends were. Sure we are a lot busier with careers and family duties, but surely we can find 3 days out of 365 to catch up and forget about life’s stresses…just chew the fat, discuss issues, talk footy, play a bit of golf and more importantly have a beer and connect.
In my profession I am fortunate enough that I can blow a bit of steam off at the gym, however others might hit the drink, do recreational drugs, dress in lycra and buy expensive bikes, spend time at the strippers or all of the above. So it is no surprise that a study by Beyond Blue found that less than two thirds of men are satisfied with the quality of their social relationships. One in eight Australian men will suffer depression, while 80% of suicides are men. So let’s be proactive with our mates and help each other out before someone you know becomes a statistic. Talk to your mates about any issues, problems they might have at work or at home, just be there, not necessarily to offer advice but support and guidance which is the fundamentals of any mateship!
We simply don’t talk to each other enough about our issues, so for me the golf weekend is all about the 3 days to reconnect. Partly because I’m a terrible golfer, but more importantly because I care about my mates.
These days my core group of mates are all married, most happily and we respect that our wives probably work harder than us, but there is something about the boy’s trips that just solve the world’s problems. Perhaps it is the fact we are all like-minded, under the same pressures, talk the same language, have the same interests. Or perhaps it is just the common bond that blokes have. Whatever it is, it works. So my goal in 2016 is to bring “The Boys Trip” back and I encourage any of you that used to, to do the same, and if you haven’t started one, then its time to start one – they are priceless!
I guarantee I will get a little bit of curry from a few of my mates better halves, but I can also guarantee that they will be better husbands, partners, fathers, friends, employees, employers on their return.
Cheers to the Golf Trip