When we hear the term “Social Wellness, we might think of getting together with friends and having a good time. Of course, this is part of our Social Wellness, but it isn’t the whole picture. Comprehensive Social Wellness involves learning to communicate honestly, creating more intimacy in our relationship and understanding how to create and maintain healthy boundaries while still being involved in the lives of others.
However, I am continually frustrated and concerned by how many people think social connectivity is about how much they engage and like, comment, post, share, repost, retweet on social media channels! If it is beneficial or educational material, I get it, but please don’t be another victim of “Fakebook”! What you see is very rarely what is actually happening. It is the old saying ‘The grass is always greener’, we always wont what we don’t have…
Social Wellness is simply the positive effect people have on your mental and physical well-being. So start by asking yourself how do you feel when you are scrolling through your social media channels? If you find them inspiring, uplifting and motivating, then fantastic, keep doing what you are doing. However, if your mindset is, ‘I wish I was like….’, ‘ I wish I could do that’, ‘ Why can’t I be like X-Y-Z’ then start restricting your access or delete your social media addiction.
Your number #1 priority should be yourself first and foremost. You need to start prioritising yourself first and then start taking an active role in promoting a healthier environment and experience positive interactions with those around you. So my suggestion is to start by finding 20 minutes a day to reflect, relax, review and regroup about how you are feeling and functioning. If you are confident with yourself then you will see improvements in all areas of your life, but you must start by being honest. Mirror mirror on the wall.
Do a quick Q and A:
- Are you happy with yourself (look, feel, function, touch)?
- Are you happy with your lifestyle (work life balance)?
- Do you like your job / career path?
- Are you happy with your relationships (personal & professional)?
Remember, it is 100% OK if you don’t answer YES to all of these questions; the key is identifying the problem/s and then coming up with a strategy to improve or change the problem/s.
Ways to Improve Your Social Wellness
- Get to know your personal needs and pursue things and people who nature those needs
- Develop awareness of the positive impact that certain people have in your life
- Keep a close connection to those people who are supportive in your life
- Seek out new relationships
- Recognise that the most important relationship/s don’t always have to be romantic
- Balance your social life with your personal life
- Send “Thank You” notes for kind deeds done in your favour (when was the last time you did this?), &
- Make others feel important and be GENUINE
Finally, Food for Thought ~
- Laughter really is good medicine
- Cholesterol levels go up when human companionship is lacking
- A strong social network can create a good mood and self-esteem, &
- People who maintain their social network and support system do better under stress
Remember, you don’t need to make drastic change, you just need to make progress…so write down one simple thing that you could implement today to improve your Social Wellness tomorrow.